If someone had asked me in 2019—before the onset of the COVID pandemic—what my opinion might be of the effectiveness of marital or relationship therapy conducted over the internet utilizing Zoom or other similar platforms, I would have replied with very little enthusiasm and a great deal of skepticism. I would likely have said that meeting a couple “virtually” would resemble “in-person” therapy to the same degree that ...read more
The highlighted items below are links to brief articles I have written. Each describes my approach to some of the problems and concerns I deal with in my practice. I invite you to click on one or more of these links to learn more about my approach to these issues.
Ten Unlikely Facts of Married Life
Instead of learning from the marital success of others, couples tend to use their own “good common sense” to deal with the problems that arise in their marriage. Although helpful in certain aspects of life, everyday common sense, or what some label “conventional wisdom,” is not particularly useful when dealing with relationship or marital issues.
For example, conventional wisdom has it that most problems ...read more
Is Low Sexual Desire a Misnomer?
One of the major reasons that individuals in committed relationships seek the services of sex therapists is to address their self-diagnosed problem of low sexual desire. These low desire individuals typically arrive at my office with their high desire spouse or partner in agreement about one basic fact—that the low desire partner is the one with the problem. Many sex experts attempt to ...read more
When Too Frequent Sex Creates Problems
In part because most individuals seeking treatment for “sex addiction” have been diagnosed with the disorder by either themselves or their partners and in part because there is no medically agreed upon definition of the term, a significant number of mental health professionals question whether, in fact, such a disorder actually exists. This issue has seen renewed interest and discussion following the revelations of ...read more
The year was 1998 and reports of the medical breakthrough were being trumpeted throughout the media. On radio and television and in articles in all the major news magazines the message was the same:
Take one little blue pill and it’s as though you are eighteen years old again. Just one pill and all your sexual fears and inadequacies will disappear and be replaced with the joy and bliss ...read more